One of the biggest sticking points is what to say after the Opener and running out ofÂ material. The solution to this common problem is Cold Reading.
The first tool you need is a cold read routine for a group, because most sets will likely beÂ groups of girlfriends. Start with a group cold read after your opener.
Here are some examples:
YOU: (Smiling) “You guys are awesome you’re just like the girls from Sex and the City.”
GIRLS: “Oh I love that show…”
(now use what you know about their personalities to fit them into one of the archetypes of the main characters from Sex and the City, give each girl a character)
(point to the responsible or tough one)
YOU: “You’re definitely Samantha because you’re tough and you have you’re stuff together.
(point to the one that seems the most sweet or quiet)
YOU: “You’re Carrie I can just tell because…!”
(point to the target and shake your head and say)
YOU: “And you’re Miranda! Oh, you’re definitely Miranda!”
The women will laugh and say why they are who they are or why they aren’t let them talk about it for a bit and then start your next routine.
Now it’s time to run another Cold Read to win the group over. And I want you to launch into the Best Friends Test (by Neil Strauss aka Style).
YOU: “OK, I have to ask: how long have you guys known each other for? (If you think they’re sisters ask: “Are you guys sisters or best friends?”)
GIRLS: “We’ve known each other forever (or whatever they say)”
YOU: “See, I knew that”
GIRLS: “How could you know that?”
YOU: “I’ll show you. In fact, I’ll give you the best friends test.”
GIRLS: (get all excited)
YOU: “OK… (pretend you’re just about to ask a serious question)
“Do you both use the same shampoo?”
GIRLS: (look at each other and then open their mouths to answer)
YOU: “OK, the answer doesn’t matter, you already passed.”
YOU: “See, if you weren’t so close to each other, you’dÂ have kept eye contact with me as you answered. But whenÂ two people have a connection, they look at each other first,Â kind of like you’re doing right now.”
YOU: “See, you don’t even need to say anything to each other. It’s like you just communicate telepathically.”
At this point they should be laughing and loving your company … time to isolate your target and launch into palm reading or astrology cold reads.
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The best way to make an impression is to teach the girl something about herself. The following techniques work extremely well:
1) “The Cube”. Women love all kinds of tests. This personality test invented by the master pick up artist and author Neil Strauss aka Style works like a charm. Read on it on the internet or Strauss’ book called “The Game“.
2) “The 3 Questions Game to Define Your Goal in Life”. This routine invented by Style is about asking the girl what she likes doing most and what kind of feeling she has doing it. The ultimate goal in life is to experience that feeling again and again.
3) Palm reading. This is an instant classic and gets every girl interested in a second. Don’t forget to tell her that has a difficult relationship to her father and an excellent one to her mother.
4) “The Ring Routine”. This routine is about telling her that wearing ring on particular fingers says something about her personality.
5) Cold Reading. This technique is extremely powerful, but you need some experience with people to be successful with it. Cold reading is about guessing what kind of person the girl is and telling her what she wants to hear.
6) Storytelling. In order to attract a girl you need to be able to tell an interesting story. Keep in mind: Telling a story is not about getting to the end, but to demonstrate your charming personality.
7) NLP-Techniques. Neuro-linguistic programming is about playing with thoughts, images and feelings and can be very powerful. Again, you need a lot of experience in this area to be really successful.
8 ) Dream interpretation. Quite popular. The problem here: a lot of people don’t remember their dreams and if they do there are way too much possibilities they can come up with that you can assign to a special interpretation pattern.
9) Handwriting analysis. A bit long winded, but nonetheless effective.
10) Number guessing game. Tell her to pick a number between 1 and 4 (guess that it’s the 3). Then tell her to pick a number between 1 and 10 (take the 7, because most people choose this number). Finally let her pick a number between 1 and 10. This time tell her to multiply the number by 9. Then, she has to add the digits of the outcome and subtract 5. The outcome is always 4.
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A lot of people want to know how to create attraction. So, without further chit-chat, here are the 3 sure-fire ways to create attraction:
1. Be mysterious.
Being mysterious means that you simply donâ€™t reveal everything about yourself. Why is this good? Because the woman generates all sorts of possibilities of what you could be. She equals you with ideas (often fantasies) that she has in her mind.
Itâ€™s obvious: when we think there is nothing else to decipher, that all the clues were revealed and that the mystery is solved, we lose interest.
It’s what we don’t know that keeps us fascinated. This is even more important during the initial stages of attraction.
Here is an example of a conversation that generates mystery:
Her – “So what do you do for a living?”
You – “You might be surprised if I told you, but before that, what do you do for work?”
Her – “I do promotional stuff.”
You – “Really? How’s that?”
Her – “Good. I like it.”
You – “I suppose you must have a lot of good stories about the people you deal with.”
Her – “Well, yes, there are some weird people.”
Me – “Of course. You remind me of my friend Kay, who has done promotional work too. One time she was doing a promotion… ” (Launch into an interesting DHV (Demonstration of Higher Value) story).
Instead of answering her question you change the conversation to her favorite topic (herself). Then, launch into an interesting story that communicates your personality and attractiveness, while still not revealing too many personal details about yourself.
The secret is that she has a good time with you in the moment. Then later, when she feels attraction, she will use her imagination to fill in all the blanks.
2. Surpass her expectations.
By dedicating a lot of time to living and arming yourself with life experiences, the people who meet you will be taken aback by finding out more about you.
They will be pleasantly shocked by how interesting and accomplished you are, and a new type of mystery will develop as they question what else lies beneath your surface.
Hereâ€™s the same conversation, but this time with focus on developing the second type of mystery:
Her – “So what do you do for a living?”
You – “You might be surprised if I told you. What would you think somebody like me works in?”
Her – “I don’t know…”
You – “Aw, c’mon, what do you mean you don’t know. You must have some idea.”
Her – “Well, I don’t know…I would say you are a student or that you are working with a company.”
You – “Not quite, I’m a skydiving instructor.”
Her – “Wow! Really? I would never have thought.”
You – “Why not?”
Her – “I don’t know…it’s just that you didn’t give the impression of being like that…”
You – “Things aren’t always the way you think.”
Some of you might be saying, “But I don’t skydive… I don’t even do anything thatÂ resembles that!”
If this is so, maybe it’s time to add some adventure and new experiences to your life.
Ask yourself, “What is one thing I’ve always wanted to try, but have never gotten around to?”
Will you make plans to try it? It might be a lot of hard work, but you CAN do it.
Jealousy is a sneaky emotion. Thoughts of inadequacy and insecurity race through the mind. Knots form as fear and anxiety creep into the stomach. While these feelings are easily identified as negative, when wielded properly in a pickup they can yield shockingly positive results.
The secret to harness this invisible power lies in the commonly held belief that women are bynature driven less by logic and more by their emotions. Even if they meet a great guy, and intellectually recognize that he is cool, interesting, funny, and various other great things, this is by no means a guarantee she will pursue him sexually. She will only do that when her emotions tell her to.
Hereâ€™s how you create a jealousy plot line:
You’ve made your approach and opened the group for conversation. You’ve won over her friends and demonstrated to her that you’re different from the other guys. Sure you’ve told a few bad jokes but you’ve also had a few good ones and everyone laughed at them. She is clearly enjoying your company.
The night progresses and the two of you talk more. You find out about her dreams, desires, and passions. There is some light touching between you, but nothing major. She seems reserved to move things forward; you’re being slotted in the friend zone. Already having exchanged contact information, you mention you have to get back to your friends and bid her farewell for now.
She thinks little of it until in her peripheral vision she sees you sitting with the girl inÂ the red dress. “Who does she think she is?” she wonders. “Giggling at his jokes and flipping her hair back like that.” Suddenly she feels the knot forming in her stomach. Her emotions are warning her she may be losing something she desires. And thus the switch has been flipped. Her emotions do not lie: She desires you.
You return with a smile to discuss one of the open loops left in your conversation from earlier. She is thrilled to have you back. A new energy exists behind the interaction. Now, when you touch her, your touch is reciprocated. Your escalation is welcomed and desired. Now, she is even laughing at your bad jokes. It’s on. Your plot line was played to perfection.
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Every approach begins with an opener, the springboard to start a conversation. ThisÂ early moment sets the tone for the interaction and breaks the ice.
Any bullet-proof opener will help you achieve three goals:
1. It’s an un-threatening approach to open the person or group up for having a conversation
2. It stirs up curiosity and captures the person or group’s imagination
3. It’s a springboard for additional follow-up conversational threads
What Makes an Opener “bullet-proof”?
There a few ingredients that allow you to approach smoothly without seeming awkward and give you a built-in “safety net” to eject if necessary. Here are the ingredients:
1. ROOT – The first question that runs through anyone’s mind who is approached by a stranger is this:
“Why is this guy talking to me? What does he want?”
The root in an opener communicates from the beginning WHY you are talking to the person. It explains the reason of your approach.
2. TIME CONSTRAINT – The second question that crosses the mind of anyone who is approached:
“How long do I have to talk to this guy? When will he leave again?”
(She obviously doesn’t know yet how interesting you really are :)) By embedding a time constraint in your opener, you will answer this question from the beginning. A time constraint looks like this:
“I have only a minute. I’m already late for a meeting.” It also has a second advantage. If you
need to eject, you can, say at any time: “I have to run. Pleasure meeting you.”
3. OPEN-ENDED Question. If you ask a Yes/No question it will be a VERY short conversation. Posing questions that elicit a longer response will give you more opportunities to start another conversational thread and more time to think.
Here’s an example of a bullet-proof opinion opener:
You: Hey guys, let me get your opinion on something. I’m trying to help my friend and I’d like to get a female opinion. (This is the root explaining why youÂ are asking the question)
Group of Girls: What?
You: Okay, I’ve only got a minute. Do you follow the advice given to you by your horoscopes? I have a reason for asking. Let me just get your opinions then I’ll tell you why I’m asking.
(There’s the time constraint and the open endedÂ question)
Group of Girls: …
(Sometimes this will already start a conversation. But there is more. The second part of this opener transitions into a little story)
You: The reason I’m asking is because my friend met a girl at a party last weekend, who said that her horoscope told her that she would meet her future husband. They actually hooked up. Now, the strange thing is, ever since then, my friend can’t stop thinking of her. HeÂ always wants to hang out with this girl, 24/7. He says he’s in love with her. Do you think it’s the horoscope’s prediction or just psychology?
Group of Girls: …
(This will lead to conversations about astrology, destiny and a lot of other topics.)
Keep in mind: A good opener is NOT just about the words you say but about HOW you communicate in these 4 levels:
Level 1: The words that you say.
Level 2: The vocal intonation you use.
Level 3: The type of eye contact, facial expression,Â gestures, and body language you display.
Level 4: The attitude you are feeling, and the energyÂ you are projecting.
What does that mean?
It means just because you know the WORDS, does not mean you can USE the opener. It comes down to PRACTICE and REPETITION.
You will find tons of great (working) openers in the book Magic Bullets. Get it! It will change your life (no exaggeration!).
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Many people find themselves having trouble communicating over the loud, repetitive sounds of the night club. If you’re not used to the noise it can be hard to think, let alone communicate!
This exercise is an easy way for any guy and his wing to overcome the deafening noise of theÂ nightclub.
Level 1: Get Comfortable in the Noise
First you’ll need a stereo that can really blast some music (the stereo in your car will work for
the Level 1 exercise.) Put on something loud, anything from bumping club music to grinding
death metal will do. Blast the music. Stand about 10 ft away from a friend and simply talk about anything for 5 to 10 minutes.
Get comfortable with thinking and speaking over loud music. It doesn’t matter at this point if the other person understands what you are saying. What matters is that you can keep on track and tell a story all the way through, over the music.
Repeat this exercise 4 times over the course of a week and you will find yourself to be muchÂ more comfortable around loud music.
Level 2: Storytelling and Listening
Write up, find, or memorize a story that your partner has never heard before. Stand across from each other and crank the music up. One of you will be the storyteller and the other will be the listener. The storyteller will try to communicate his story over the blasting music. The listener will try to figure out what the story is all about.
Once the storyteller is finished telling his tale, turn the music down. Now, the listener will
explain what he believes the story was all about. If his version of the story is way off, then the storyteller needs to change how he expresses his story.
The storyteller and listener should discuss ways that you could use your body language and
tonality to more accurately tell the story. Use your hands, make gestures, or change your facial expressions to match feelings or events in the story. Emphasize specific words that are important to the meaning of the story. Find parts of the story where you can throw in some kino. Tell the story again. Then change roles.
There are two lessons for this exercise. The first lesson is how to communicate an entireÂ story to a group of people in a loud night club so that the listeners get the point.
The second lesson is how to listen to and interpret a story in a loud environment. This isÂ especially important when a girl is telling you a story. The more you can hear, the better your response could be.
One of the worst things you can do in a noisy club is to “peck” when you can’t hear whatÂ someone is saying. When you can’t hear someone, most guys will lean in closer to the speaker.
Some men even think this is a positive form of kino because they can use the noise as an excuse to get close to the lady. However, by repeatedly leaning in, you resemble a ravenous chicken, pecking at feed in the chicken coop. It looks bad and it conveys lower value.
Resist the urge to peck. If you can’t hear what someone says, stand tall and simply ask them to repeat it. Do not lean forward. For more tips take a look atÂ Magic Bullets (there are also FREE chapters!)
P.S. Happy New 2011!
There are a lot of dating myths out in the world that are false. Hereâ€™s Savoyâ€™s Top 3 List:
1. Women want a nice guy.
You have heard and seen this plenty of times; Women saying they all want to date a nice guy, but then they all end up dating the jerk or bad boy. This paradox is as old as the Earth.
Women do want someone who can be nice to them, but also someone who can push their buttons and has strong boundaries. Nice guy lack the latter and that is why especially beautiful women donâ€™t end up dating the nice guy. If you are one of the nice guys, try to tease girls more and fooling around with them. It sounds counterintuitive, but it works.
2. Dating should be fair.
This is a big one. It goes like this: â€œI shouldnâ€™t be doing all the pursuing and all the work, dating should be fairâ€. If you recognize yourself, stop right now.
In the dating world, the guy has to be proactive about it. Just accept this. You canâ€™t expect for women to approach you and seduce you. When one does, itâ€™s most likely a pro (not a professional!).
You can also look at it differently. You have the option to pick the women you want to date. You are the one exercising the freedom of picking. Women donâ€™t. They have to go through a lot of chumps and unfortunately sometimes they still canâ€™t find the right guy.
3. Women hate to be approached.
There is this myth out there that says women hate to be approached. Nothing couldnâ€™t be further from the truth. Why do you think it takes hours for women to get ready to go out at night? If friends want to have a conversation over a glass of wine, they can do that at home too.
Another popular excuse women use is so they can â€œdance.â€ Another excuse to masquerade why women really go out. The real reason women go out is to find a guy, just like you go out to find a girl. Donâ€™t let these excuses women give fool you. The next time you see women out, keep in mind that they want to be approached and swept away. You can be that guy.
One of the reasons this myth is so established is because a lot of guys have no clue how to approach women and they do it in a terrible fashion. For example, using a pickup line does not work and it is the fastest way to get rejected. Instead, with the right fashion, body language, and the right thing to say you can start enjoying conversations with beautiful women. All those topics are covered in the pickup bible â€œMagic Bulletsâ€.