The value elicitation routine is designed to make her question her beliefs and completely destroy her value system. This classic routine by Pick-Up Artist Neil Strauss aka Style is performed by asking her things she considers as important. One way to start is to ask her “What are the things that you once thought to be true, perhaps because your parents told you so, that you find to be totally false later?” Here is the complete sequence:
– What is the activity you like doing most? (she’ll say dancing or being with family or something)
– What is the ideal scenario of you doing that thing. describe it..
– try to imagine that scenario in your headâ€¦how do you feel? What emotions do you feel?
– Could you feel that emotion you felt back then right now, while we were talking about it?
– So really then, even though your favorite experience is â€¦, your core value is fun and excitementâ€¦ You want to experience good emotions over and over again.
– Oky, so in five minutes we’ve fulfilled your goal in life! You can die now (smile!).
For his upcoming book (Everyone Loves You When Youâ€™re Dead) Neil Strauss aka Style, author of â€śThe Gameâ€ť, lookedÂ over two decades spent touring with rockers andÂ rappers andÂ realized there wereÂ a few common lessons and themes that we can all apply to our lives.
One of the things he noticed was that musicians who believed that theyÂ were destined to be famous, that being aÂ celebrity was “God’s plan” for them, were moreÂ likely to get famous and stay there.
On the other hand, musicians who got famous,Â and then felt like they got lucky or didn’t deserveÂ to be there any more than other talented (butÂ lesser known) musicians tended to fall out ofÂ the limelight pretty quickly.
Strauss even found similar patterns inÂ other fields – from sports to survival. For example liver transplantÂ patients were three times more likely to live ifÂ they sought God’s help and intervention. AndÂ disaster victims in survival situations whoÂ prayed were more likely to live than those whoÂ didn’t.
The key point here however isnâ€™t religion. Itâ€™s BELIEF and theÂ power of POSITIVE THINKING. According to Strauss success comes from acting out of confidence,Â conviction, commitment, and deservedness, noÂ matter what critics, haters, and competitors are saying and thinking–with no fear ofÂ failure (and with no problem bouncing backÂ undiscouraged if one doesn’t succeed at first).
Conversely, walking down the path to your goalsÂ with fear, doubt, and uncertainty as yourÂ traveling companions is a sure way to slow down – if not completely bring to a halt – yourÂ journey. Even when successful, having a feelingÂ of undeservedness when you reach your goal willÂ ultimately lead to self-sabotage.
Straussâ€™ advice: whether you’re looking at the woman (or womenÂ or lack thereof) in your life or your careerÂ goals for the new year, ask yourself: WHAT DO IÂ DESERVE?
Neil Straussâ€™ article in the Wall Street Journal.
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