4 Reasons Why You Should Learn Daytime Dating
Posted by admin on August 4th, 2010 filed in "day game", daytime dating, places to meet womenComment now »
Most guys think you can only meet women in bars and clubs. That can’t be further from the truth. Just think back how many gorgeous women you’ve seen shopping. The great thing is that meeting women in the daytime is a great alternative. Here are 4 reasons why you should start meeting women in coffee shops, malls, colleges, and shopping streets.
1. You don’t enjoy going to bars or clubs.
A lot of guys don’t like going to bars and clubs. Going out at night can be expensive with cover and buying drinks (especially if you buy lots of drinks and you have that dreaded hangover the next day). Let’s not forget that you smell like smoke and sweat the next morning. The good thing is that women aren’t only found in bars and clubs. If you don’t like meeting women at night (or your schedule doesn’t permit you), you will love daytime dating. You can meet tons of women in the daytime. Just think of all the women you can meet in busy malls and coffee shops.
2. Most women are by themselves.
Don’t you just hate it when you get cockblocked? Well guess what. You won’t have that problem in the daytime. At night women are found in big groups. Oftentimes with men around them too that might intimidate you. However, most women are found alone during the day. She might be running some errands or she is on her way to get an appointment. This makes it much easier to get to know the woman when she is by herself and you won’t have to worry about her friends interrupting you.
3. You meet more quality girls.
Let’s face it. Do you really want that crazy party girl as your girlfriend? You will meet more quality girls in the daytime than you do at night. They are too busy doing useful things than getting drunk at night. You won’t find quality girls partying on a Wednesday night at 1.30am. A beautiful woman reading a book on Roman history is a better catch, isn’t she? You will find those quality women shopping in malls, libraries, and coffee shops just to name a few places. In fact, a lot of these quality girls will refuse to meet guys at bars or clubs. So if you don’t meet those girls in the daytime, you’re missing out on a lot of quality women.
4. Wider range of times and places to meet women.
The night time only gives you limited number of options on types of places you can meet women: bar, lounge, and nightclub. During the day you can go to many more places: coffee shops, libraries, college campuses, shopping streets, malls, and grocery stores. There more places where on one-off times you can meet women like theme parks, festivals, and that one time you run into a woman somewhere and you don’t what to do. Another great thing of daytime dating is that you don’t have to wait till nighttime comes around. You can start meeting women as soon as you wake up getting your coffee at the coffee shop.
If you want to find out more on how to meet, attract, and seduce women in daytime environment, you should check out “Daytime Dating” by day-game expert Jeremy Soul of Love Systems. He is recognized as the #1 day game expert and he has codified his system for getting girls in coffee shops, malls, streets, and more. His brand-new book on day-game called “Daytime Dating” is going to be released tomorrow. By now you can read 20 pages for FREE!
Why Canned Openers and Routines?
Posted by admin on July 27th, 2010 filed in Uncategorized, Why Canned Openers & RoutinesComment now »
A lot of newbies wonder why they should use canned openers and any kind of routines. They think being spontaneous is all you need. So, why do you need routines at all?
Routines are great training wheels. They allow you to test and refine the delivery of your material so you eventually get it “just right”. Routines clear your mind of the constant question: “OMG what am I going to say next to keep the conversation going?”
They allow you to be actually more present in the moment and tune directly
into the emotional connection between you and the girl. While your mouth keeps blabbering
interesting stuff, almost without an effort of your thinking brain.
Routines literally open your heart to focus on HER and HER reactions. They allow you to flow and vibe and be in complete sync with her emotions, which is all that matters anyway.
Of course, being quick-witted and coming up with original, personal stuff to say
on the fly is the holy grail. But routines are a must for two reasons:
Reason #1: Everyone has an off day or an off moment.
Even the most skilled conversationalist will hit a lull sooner or later. What better way to amp up the energy again than by pulling out a tried and true routine… where the audience reaction is 100% predictable!?
Reason #2: Studying routines makes you think about why they work. They allow you to see the PATTERNS behind social interaction.
P.S. If you need some outstanding, working openers and routines for tones of different situations, get Magic Bullets, the “pickup bible”.
7 Foolproof Ways to Turn Her On
Posted by admin on July 9th, 2010 filed in "Social Proof", Attraction, Uncategorized, What women look for in a manComment now »
In order to make a woman feel attracted to you, you have to flip some switches – sooner or later. Here are the main ones:
1. You must show her that you’re safe. Trust is an important issue for most women. This must be demonstrated. So switch #1: SAFETY and TRUST.
2. You must show her that you have either job, security, motivation, or ambition. In other
words, you must have a life and goals. So switch #2 is demonstrating to her that you have STABILITY and AMBITION. You don’t have to be successful, you just have to show the potential to be successful.
3. You must show her that you’re different than the other guys, that you are not generic or boring, that she can learn something from you or grow with you, that you have a sense of adventure or creativity or spirituality. So switch #3 is showing her that you have something to offer, even if you don’t give it to her in the moment. This is where DHVs (demonstrations of higher value) are useful.
4. You must be the prize of the room. She wants a guy others will envy her for, that she can brag about to her friends.This is where social proof comes in, where story-telling comes in. It’s also where alpha qualities come in, and not supplicating. So switch #4 is demonstrating all of the many qualities of: CONFIDENCE, LEADERSHIP, AUTHORITY, and POPULARITY.
5. It’s a big world and we all feel alone in it, so if you can demonstrate that you UNDERSTAND her and where she comes from, she will feel chemistry. This can largely be done through demonstrating either cultural, mental, emotional, world view, humor, or life/background commonalities. The more obscure and rare a trait that you connect
on, the more chemistry you create. So Switch #5 is demonstrating COMMONALITIES in order to trigger CHEMISTRY.
6. You need an aura of depth and mystery. You must maybe show a vulnerable or wounded side of yourself, you must not give away everything for free, you must be a puzzle she wants to figure out and maybe even have a wound she can heal. Switch #6 then is hooking her with your DEPTH and MYSTERY.
7. You must show her that you are NOT horny, but sexual. This is where social proof comes in too, also demonstrating an understanding of her world (liking her for who SHE is). So switch #7 is demonstrating your own LACK OF DESPERATION while showing her that you recognize something SPECIAL in her that attracts you to her. This is where QUALIFYING is useful, in other words demonstrating that you like her for who she is.
Getting Started - Opening
Posted by admin on July 2nd, 2010 filed in Approach, Attraction, Opening, UncategorizedComment now »
What is opening?
Essentially, it’s the first 3-90 seconds of an interaction with a woman, whereby you begin a conversation. With opening, there is good news and bad news. The bad news is that opening can be very scary. Men are biologically predisposed to be incredibly nervous when starting a conversation with a woman that we don’t know. There are good evolutionary-biological reasons for this (in prehistoric times, approaching an unknown woman without permission or an introduction could lead to violent retaliation from her extended family), but that’s probably not a lot of comfort. So, that nervous feeling you get and the little voices that pop into your head looking for excuses NOT to talk to that beautiful woman are NORMAL. You need to learn to suppress them, but they are normal, and everyone - even pickup gurus like Mystery and Style - have them.
Some more bad news. We not only need to open, suppressing our built-in emotions, but we need to open well. Opening poorly can doom the rest of your interaction with a woman, and any other women who see it, making everything else you do a waste of time.
What’s the good news? With practice, it’s fairly easy. Most experienced guys don’t even need to think about opening anymore.
The following tips will help get you started:
1. Have a canned opener ready - This is NOT a night at the improv. Going “situational” (e.g., “it sure is crowded here” or “that’s a nice purse”) will rarely work. Think about it. If a 22 year old woman has been going out 1 night per week since she was 18, and got approached 5 times in a night (and these numbers are major underestimations) she has been approached 1,000 times before you came along. Most of those 1,000 guys have tried something boring and situational. Use a canned opener - something that has been repeatedly tested with women and is proven to work. If you don’t have even one opener, I’d suggest Magic Bullets or the Love Systems Routines Manual. If you don’t have these invaluable texts, do yourself a favor and spend the money to get them and have your openers ready before you even go to the club, coffee shop, lounge, etc.
2. 3-2-1-GO! - When you see a girl you like: GO! Open her group immediately. Failure to do this will “stale you out.” Women like confidence. They don’t like to be stalked. They like spontaneity. Wandering around circling her, looking at her, trying to figure out what to do next will turn her off and creep her out. Get into the habit of seeing a group of people, and GOING IN. You’ve already got your opener ready, right?
3. Approach at an angle - Do not walk straight up to the group. Approach at an angle, tilt your head over your shoulders, and say your piece. Done correctly (and you almost need to see it to do it properly), you raise your value significantly by demonstrating that you do not need their attention or approval.
4. Smile on the approach - Don’t grin like a moron through the entire interaction, but smile as you walk to the set, and in the first few seconds of the opener. Smile with your eyes, not just your mouth. It may sound silly, but smiles can (and should) be practiced in front of a mirror.
5. Be loud enough - Everyone in the group should hear your opener. Your opener should be loud enough that it cuts across whatever conversations they are already having. Don’t shout, but make it socially awkward for them not to pay attention to your opener. Practice opening - loudly - from your chest, not your throat. If you put your hand on your chest, you should be able to talk in two ways: one in which you can feel the vibrations on your hand, and one where you can’t. Train yourself to speak in the way where you can feel the vibrations.
6. Don’t lean in - This is connected to being loud enough. You should project your voice enough that they can hear you from a normal standing position (or leaning slightly back).
7. Engage the group - Do NOT go into a group and talk to the woman you want to meet (the target). Engage the whole group. Pay LESS attention to the woman you are interested in.
8. Playfully tease the target - Teasing is a major tool for triggering attraction. The hotter the girl, the quicker you have to tease. It demonstrates higher social value, and women are attracted to men that they perceive as having higher social status than they perceive themselves to have. I’ve seen some of our instructors open with teasing, and many will begin teasing the target within the first 10 seconds of their openers.
Another crucial element of opening is ending it. The opener should be something short, to grab the group’s attention, and be emotionally neutral. As soon as you spot an opportunity, you should transition into get the girl attracted.
All these tips and techniques are covered in depth in Magic Bullets, which is considered the bible of seduction. Much more is covered in the book like how to attract women and how to figure out when the best time is to kiss a girl.
3 Body Language Signs She is Attracted To You
Posted by admin on June 22nd, 2010 filed in Attraction, Nonverbal Communication, Uncategorized, body languageComment now »
We can verbally tell someone that we are attracted to the other person, but a majority of the time it is being told through our body language. That is also the most reliable way of telling if a woman is attracted to you. Words can be deceived, but the body never lies (that’s why we have lie detector tests).
Not every girl will exhibit the same body language signs to show that she is attracted to you, but here are 3 body language signs to look out for. If you see her doing any of these, you can tell that she is attracted to you.
1. Hair touching
This is a classic. It has evolutionary merits, but all you need to know is that if she is playing with her hair while you’re talking to her, she is attracted to you.
2. Interlocking Fingers
Whenever you hold a woman’s hand, is she interlacing her fingers with yours or not? Or if you give her a high five and you hold your hand up, does she interlace her fingers with yours? These are simple physical tests you can do to test if she is attracted to you. If she interlocks her fingers with yours, she is definitely attracted.
3. Licking Her Lips
How do you know when a woman is ready to be kissed? Pay close attention to a her lips. Women will lick their lips, apply lipstick, or slightly pout their lips when they are ready to be kissed. These are subconscious invitations for you to make a move!
Reading body language the right way is really important when it comes to attracting women. Read them wrong and she will reject you. Read them correctly and your dating life will be turned upside down.
Beyond Words - PUA Cajun on Subtext
Posted by admin on June 18th, 2010 filed in Attraction, DVDs, Mind Frame, Nonverbal Communication, PUA Cajun, Posture, Subtext, Uncategorized, body languageComment now »
What is subtext?
For acting, subtext is the underlying meaning behind spoken words as interpreted by an actor. What does that mean? Basically you’re adding additional meaning to your spoken words by the way you say them. Let’s say you have the following (cheesy) script for a scene to act in:
John and Mary are alone in the bedroom. Mary is upset and John is comforting her.
“John: Mary, everything is going to be ok, I just want you to know that I love you.”
Now you’re going to play John in this scene there is a lot of information you’re going to need in order to apply the proper subtext to your dialogue. Things like:
What is the relationship between John and Mary?
If they are siblings then the line would be spoken much differently than if they were lovers.
- What happened just before?
- What if this scene took place right after they had sex?
- How would you reflect that in the above line of dialogue?
This is all information that can be implied with the proper subtext.
So, what does this have to do with game? Everything!
Because – and you probably have heard this a lot - it doesn’t matter WHAT you say, it’s HOW you say it. Women are MASTERS at subtext, they know that there is loads of information hidden in the way something is said. That’s why women can get so bitchy over seemingly trivial things that guys say; they know what were thinking!
So how do you use subtext effectively? Let’s have an example:
Let’s say you’re in a venue gaming and you see a great set. Now in any given set at the venue, realistically, the subtext of the dialogue you exchange with them is going to be “I’m trying to win you over and make you like me.” A lot of guys subconsciously use this subtext when they open and are often blown out. Why? Because the women read into your subtext and knew exactly what you were doing, this is why you will hear “Is that a line?” often, even if she hadn’t heard it before.
A better way to approach is to use the subtext of your opener. This is how most successful PUAs operate. For instance, Cajun’s opener involves him asking girls if he looks like a drug dealer, so the subtext is simply that it’s bothering his that he look like a drug dealer and he needs their opinion. When he says the opener he puts himself in the mind frame that it JUST happened to him so that his subtext is believable.
Cajun holds the view that the best way to approach is to look at the venue as a stage and look at each set as a scene you can enter into. Instead of using the above mind frames when opening try to use the subtext of a completely made up scenario that makes you exude attractiveness. Enter into the set under the subtext of “I just slept with all of these girls” and I will communicate that to them by the way I speak, not by the words I’m saying. All of your dialogue will remain the same as it normally was.
So what happens? They catch on very quickly and you will create attraction almost instantaneously. Women LOVE guys that they can’t quite figure out, so if you go in acting like you just slept with them then you are basically a social enigma, which is like crack to them.
And this is why you can talk to them about robots for 3 mins and then all of a sudden make out! Subtext is the reason. You don’t always have to use the subtext of “I just slept with these girls”. You can use whatever you want, but this one works very well.
Subtext is one of those things that’s pretty hard to grasp through reading. That’s why Cajun and other Love Systems instructors created the DVD set “Beyond Words” so you can visually see it. In the DVD you can see Cajun teach in more depth other non-verbal techniques to attract women using your body language.
P.S. If you have any doubts about Cajun, check out Cajun picking up some hot girls. It’s a classic by now.
The Body Language and Physical Escalation DVD is out!
Posted by admin on June 11th, 2010 filed in Attraction, DVDs, Nonverbal Communication, Posture, Sexual Escalation, Uncategorized, What women look for in a man, body language, sexual framingComment now »
The guys from Love Systems finally did it: The Body Language and Physical Escalation DVD is finished. Here is an interview with Cajun, a great PUA and one of the guys behind the DVD:
What is the Beyond Words DVD Home Study Course about?
Cajun: A lot of guys ask me on the forums and in emails how they can improve their body language so they can better approach and attract women. It’s hard to show it to them because it is something you have to see. A lot of body language is very subtle and that is hard to convey in text. You can read about body language in books but it’s not the same as when you can visually see it.
A couple months ago I flew to London to work with Vercetti, who is a trained Shakespearean actor and fellow Love Systems coach, to make this DVD home study course. We wanted to share our newest and proven methods to attract women using non-verbal communication.
Instead of writing a book, we decided to make a DVD because you can visually learn how to improve your body language. With help of Mr M, Keychain and 5.0 we also made an extra segment on physical escalation. Again, touching and physical escalation (”kino”) can be better taught by using a visual medium.
Why is body language so important?
Cajun: A lot of guys think what you say is the most important thing when it comes to attracting women. That couldn’t be further from the truth. It doesn’t matter what you say, it is how you say it. With the “how” I mean your tone of voice, facial expressions, body language, and what we call “subcommunications” and “subtext”.
In the DVD set we cover all these aspects and explain in depth why your non-verbal communication is much more important than your verbal. Scientific studies have shown that most communication between people is non-verbal. In this clip I tell why non-verbal communication is important (a sneak preview of the DVD).
Can you give one tip that someone can use right now to improve their body language?
Cajun: The simplest thing you can do today is to work on your posture. In the DVD we cover the Alexander technique on how that can improve your posture dramatically. Trained actors use this all the time.
Girls will reject you before you even approach if you have bad posture, because it subcommunicates a lot of bad things about you. This goes especially for guys who have sit behind a computer a lot.
A simple exercise you can do is to do row exercises at the gym and squats. Also, whenever you sit behind your desk, be conscious of your posture. Don’t slouch, sit tall and keep your back erect. If you buy a swiss ball and use that as your chair behind your desk, you will be forced to sit up straight and it will fix your posture that way too.
Anything else you want to share?
Cajun: I’m really excited about the Beyond Words DVD set. Finally I’ve been able to reveal all my body language and subtext secrets that I normally only teach on my workshops and 1on1 sessions. This DVD is one of a kind and you can finally learn how to properly physically escalate (”kino”) and how to use your body language so it becomes easier to meet and attract women.
For more information on Cajun and his Beyond Words DVD Home Study Course, click here.
Don’t forget to check out the other preview clips:
Vercetti on First Impressions
Vercetti on Beer Shield
5.0 on Breaking Contact
6 Crucial Tips for a Good Night Out
Posted by admin on May 21st, 2010 filed in UncategorizedComment now »
Whenever you want to go out and work on your pickup skills, you want to make sure you get the fundamentals down first. Here are 6 tips you can use to ensure you will have a good night out:
1. Approach immediately to prevent any form of anxiety building up. There are some exceptions to this, but use it as a guideline.
2. Smile on the approach - You don’t have to keep your smile plastered on, but smile in the first 1-3 seconds when you first approach. This will make people, especially women, more open to you.
3. Be louder – Rather be too loud than too quiet, especially in noisy venues. In any approach you make, every member of the group should be able to hear you comfortably. Vocal muscles are like any other muscles. You need to work them out. They will tire and become sore. And then your body will repair them to be stronger and more effective.
4. Stand up straight - If she can’t hear you, don’t lean in, be louder. If you can’t hear her - who cares. At least for the first minute or two. Just continue with what you are talking about or start a new conversational thread. After a few minutes, or when you need to work in qualification, then you can move her (or the group) somewhere quieter.
5. Improvise - Canned material is fine, but don’t make it a crutch. You should never leave a conversation because you “ran out of things to say.” Improvise. Try something - anything! Even “so, uhhh, where are you from?” is better than wandering off. You may not come up with the next spectacular line right away, but your subconscious will be thinking about it. Stay in enough conversations without a safety net of canned material, and you’ll start to get really, really good.
6. Be ‘normal’ and social - not a pickup shark - Don’t circle around the venue looking for your prey. Those guys are “losers” and women don’t want any part of them. Don’t stand side by side with your guy friend, intently watching everyone else, and then finally approaching a girl. Trust me, the girl saw you staring earlier. Instead, relax, be social, and have fun! Talk to guys, mixed groups, women you’re not attracted to, whoever is there. Oh, by the way, if you don’t find yourself successfully doing this, then make sure you go out a few times to the very same venues that you would use to meet women, but instead practice just being social and part of the larger group. Don’t pick up any women. Just talk, have fun, get comfortable with your surroundings, and meet people. Then go back and use your new social skills as a jumping off point for the 9 phases and your routines (see Magic Bullets).
With a trained instructor, bypassing these and about a dozen more typical “new guy” mistakes can be accomplished quickly. By yourself, it may take a while, so be persistent and don’t lose faith. Remember – even the best pickup guru was in your shoes once.
Speaking of success, learning to be good with women has often been compared to climbing a mountain. At first, you’re on the bottom and can only see the first crest. It looks like the top of the mountain, but you know it’s not. Kind of like - you see your first challenge, or sticking point, might be delivering good attraction material. Then you get that down, and you notice that your interactions with women are falling apart because of bad body language. You didn’t know you had improvement opportunities with your body language before, because you were getting blown out before that problem could surface. So that’s the next crest, and so on. Learning these skills can be thought of in some ways as being a process of sequentially solving increasingly advanced sticking points.
All these tips and more are covered in Magic Bullets, often regarded as the bible of seduction.
Learning Pickup – What Really Works
Posted by admin on May 10th, 2010 filed in "day game", Attraction, Uncategorized, newbie missionComment now »
The best thing you can do, is read/listen to/watch something, but for the time you spend learning it, spend 3 times that going out and practicing it in field. So if you spend an hour reading something, spend 3 hours going out and practicing it.
At some point you realise that 75% (if not more) is not what you say, but what’s going on elsewhere: Your sub-communications such as your voice tonality, posture, body language, eye contact, how you carry yourself etc. and the mindset you’re going out with. Of course you can’t be spitting boring ass shit at the girl, but for example, a guy learning this stuff with 50 routines saved on his phone/written on a sheet in his back pocket and trying to remember them all with the mindset of ‘I hope I don’t fuck up’, or a guy that has two or three things he’s learnt that he’s gonna practice, and has the mindset of ‘I’m gonna go have fun with this’. Who’s gonna 1. Learn more from doing it a bit at a time, and 2. Have more fun doing it?
Don’t treat mastering this area of your life as work, treat it as a new game that you look forward to playing. Go out & have fun with it, and instead of trying to get good at opening, teasing, takeaways, disqualifying, transitioning, qualifying, escalating, closing, same night lays etc. all in one night, put the puzzle together one piece at a time. More importantly, don’t put so much emphasis on the result, work on the skillset, not the outcome.
For more info, check out the Love Systems audio download. The first 10 minutes are FREE!
Routines Manual 2 for only $9.99!
Posted by admin on April 10th, 2010 filed in Routines Manual, Routines Manual 2, UncategorizedComment now »
The guys from Love Systems currently have a very unique offer:
For a limited period of time you can try out the Routines Manual 2 for only $9.99 (the full price is $99)!
The Routines Manual 2 is a must-have for any guy who wants to get better with girls - there are 170 pages with brand-new, never seen before material:
Openers, Transitions, Attraction Material, Qualifiers, Comfort Material, Physical Escalation Routines, Seduction Tactics and even bonus sections on rearely covered topics in pickup: Day Game, Phone Game and Palm/Cold Reading.
Most guys find the Routines Manual extremely helpful as they don’t know WHAT to say to that hot girl they see in the club. That’s where the Routines Manual 2 comes in: it’s full of routines that are explained in detail and that really work.
If you don’t believe this stuff is extremely useful, simply have a look at it before you buy it: you can download over 20 pages (pdf) of the Routines Manual 2 for FREE!