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How to Pick Up Women – 7 Things You Need to Do to Get the Girl

1. Go out and approach. You can read all the pickup material in the world and watch endless pickup videos on YouTube, but as long as you don’t go out and practice the stuff you read and see it doesn’t matter. In fact, it might even kill your game as you become dependent on those videos because they make you feel good (temporarily).

2. Don’t take things girls say personally. If you get rejected – and this happens to EVERYONE, even pickup gurus – don’t start thinking she doesn’t like you as a person. She can’t because she doesn’t know you long enough. It’s always about your approach: Did you smile? Were you loud enough? Did you make superfluos gestures?

3. Focus on the process, not on the outcome. If you go out with the goal to make-up or sleep with a girl you are doomed to fail. You simply can’t predict those things and if things don’t go your way it will affect your (emotional) state. And girls always look for your emotional state first. Try to have fun in the process – it will simplify anything else.

4. Lead. Don’t be passive and listen to her stories for hours. Talk about things you want to talk about. Don’t wait for something to happen, make it happen! Say you want to do XYZ and do it. Suggest things, take responsibility. Change venues, inspire her to do something with you.

5. Work her emotions. Women are all about emotions, different kind of emotions. That why they like drama and crying at the movies so much. Never bore her, simply give her what she wants: the full range of emotions. Say you love her, then say you hate her… This is not lying, this is called flirting. Extreme emotions are WAY better than no emotions at all. Even a negative emotion is better than no emotion because you can change it to positive. Tell stories that trigger her emotions. Be unpredictable, surprise her.

6. Always kino escalate. Touch her while approaching (there are studies showing this alone improves the response rate dramatically), hug her, use high fives, punch her in the shoulder (playfully), ask for a small massage (you will be surprised how many girls will do you the favor!) and massage her, do hand reading etc. Kino escalation is a must to avoid landing in the friend zone. Women love physical contact much more than men, however don’t overdo it in the beginning, keep it subtle.

7. Calibrate. Pickup is about adapting to the girl. Girls are different and sometimes will react differently to your stuff – depending on her emotional state etc. Don’t let this affect your game, just adapt. Find out what she’s about, give her some extremes and look how she reacts. Don’t worry, it’s still better than no extremes at all as it triggers her emotions and that exaclty what girls want. This way you will stand out from all the boring guys she has met in the past.

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Where to Start…The “Newbie Mission”

A lot of guys who want to get better with women ask themselves where to start.

First of all, you don’t need to read all the books from all the well-known pickup artist like Mystery, Style aso. Actually, it can be even counterproductive as after reading one you get so exited that you want even more information and want to read all the sutff avaible – forgetting that reading alone won’t change your situation. You need pratice – in field.

Here is what you can do today:

go to a place where you can find a lot of people (a mall, a store, a train station aso.) and simply say “Hi!” (with a friendly smile) to every woman who passes you by. That’s it!

Don’t think about what might happen or how silly it sounds. Just do it! It will help reducing your fear of appoach tremendesly.

Learning Pickup – What Really Works

The best thing you can do, is read/listen to/watch something, but for the time you spend learning it, spend 3 times that going out and practicing it in field. So if you spend an hour reading something, spend 3 hours going out and practicing it.

At some point you realise that 75% (if not more) is not what you say, but what’s going on elsewhere: Your sub-communications such as your voice tonality, posture, body language, eye contact, how you carry yourself etc. and the mindset you’re going out with. Of course you can’t be spitting boring ass shit at the girl, but for example, a guy learning this stuff with 50 routines saved on his phone/written on a sheet in his back pocket and trying to remember them all with the mindset of ‘I hope I don’t fuck up’, or a guy that has two or three things he’s learnt that he’s gonna practice, and has the mindset of ‘I’m gonna go have fun with this’. Who’s gonna 1. Learn more from doing it a bit at a time, and 2. Have more fun doing it?

Don’t treat mastering this area of your life as work, treat it as a new game that you look forward to playing. Go out & have fun with it, and instead of trying to get good at opening, teasing, takeaways, disqualifying, transitioning, qualifying, escalating, closing, same night lays etc. all in one night, put the puzzle together one piece at a time. More importantly, don’t put so much emphasis on the result, work on the skillset, not the outcome.

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Love Systems Conference: Pickup Artists Lineup Revealed

The Lineup of Pickup Artists that will teach you how to get beautiful women in your life at the Love Systems Super Conference in Las Vegas (October 9-11.2009) is finally revealed. Here’s the complete schedule (the names of the instructors in parentheses):

The Top 10 Myths of Pickup (Savoy) – There are a lot of myths and bad pieces of advice out in the dating world. The author of Magic Bullets will dispel all myths and tell you the TRUTH on what works and what doesn’t work.

High-End Club Game (5.0)
– Attracting a “10” at a VIP club is different from dating the girl next door. 5.0, who has trained rock stars to pick up women, reveals the secrets for these loud and target-rich places to pick up the most sought after women in the club.

Banishing Approach Anxiety Forever (Fader) – How different would your life be if you could confidently approach any woman, anywhere? Your success with women will skyrocket once you have no approach anxiety.

Advanced Social Dynamics (Mr. M) – From the co-creator of the widely-hailed Social Circle Mastery (also offered at the Super Conference). Topics include: qualification and the social hierarchy, getting attraction in group situations, generating massive social proof, and more.

Use Frames, Framing, and Reframing Tonight (Sheriff)
– One of the top 5 most powerful techniques to attract beautiful women – and the most misunderstood. Learn the secret frame control and framing techniques from one of the senior dating coaches!

Boundaries and Disqualification (Braddock) – We’re going to be going out to VIP clubs in Vegas, so we want you armed to the teeth with attraction techniques that will get through to “10s.” Braddock will teach you getting women chasing you with advanced push/pull and disqualification.

Qualification Demystified (Future)
– very few men understand what qualification really is and how to implement it in the field. It is essential for building comfort and rapport so make sure you know to make yourself a source of validation to women.

Physical Escalation (“kino”) (Soul)
– Touching is one the most common problems guys have when learning meeting and picking up women. Learn from the voted #1 Super Conference instructor of last year.

Body Language (Cajun) – Body Language is one of those things everyone agrees is important, but no one gets specific about it. We do. The little things add up and matter – a lot.

Turning Phone Numbers into Dates (Tenmagnet)
– Do you get a lot of flaky numbers and you can’t turn these numbers into dates? Learn from Tenmagnet, featured in The Game, on turning dead phone numbers into dates.

Cajun’s Question Game Routine (Cajun) – The winner of Keys to the VIP shares this top-secret routine. If you can get to Comfort, you can close with this. A student of last year’s Super Conference learned Cajun’s routine and slept with a girl he met on the plane on his way home by using the routine. You can get the same success!

Rapid Sexual Escalation (Keychain) – You hear the stories of pulling hot girls into the bathroom, or immediate makeouts, or taking her home soon after meeting her. Or you’ve seen Love Systems instructors do it. Now for the first time, we show you how.

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