The Pick-Up Diary

1. Go out and approach. You can read all the pickup material in the world and watch endless pickup videos on YouTube, but as long as you don’t go out and practice the stuff you read and see it doesn’t matter. In fact, it might even kill your game as you become dependent on those videos because they make you feel good (temporarily).

2. Don’t take things girls say personally. If you get rejected – and this happens to EVERYONE, even pickup gurus – don’t start thinking she doesn’t like you as a person. She can’t because she doesn’t know you long enough. It’s always about your approach: Did you smile? Were you loud enough? Did you make superfluos gestures?

3. Focus on the process, not on the outcome. If you go out with the goal to make-up or sleep with a girl you are doomed to fail. You simply can’t predict those things and if things don’t go your way it will affect your (emotional) state. And girls always look for your emotional state first. Try to have fun in the process – it will simplify anything else.

4. Lead. Don’t be passive and listen to her stories for hours. Talk about things you want to talk about. Don’t wait for something to happen, make it happen! Say you want to do XYZ and do it. Suggest things, take responsibility. Change venues, inspire her to do something with you.

5. Work her emotions. Women are all about emotions, different kind of emotions. That why they like drama and crying at the movies so much. Never bore her, simply give her what she wants: the full range of emotions. Say you love her, then say you hate her… This is not lying, this is called flirting. Extreme emotions are WAY better than no emotions at all. Even a negative emotion is better than no emotion because you can change it to positive. Tell stories that trigger her emotions. Be unpredictable, surprise her.

6. Always kino escalate. Touch her while approaching (there are studies showing this alone improves the response rate dramatically), hug her, use high fives, punch her in the shoulder (playfully), ask for a small massage (you will be surprised how many girls will do you the favor!) and massage her, do hand reading etc. Kino escalation is a must to avoid landing in the friend zone. Women love physical contact much more than men, however don’t overdo it in the beginning, keep it subtle.

7. Calibrate. Pickup is about adapting to the girl. Girls are different and sometimes will react differently to your stuff – depending on her emotional state etc. Don’t let this affect your game, just adapt. Find out what she’s about, give her some extremes and look how she reacts. Don’t worry, it’s still better than no extremes at all as it triggers her emotions and that exaclty what girls want. This way you will stand out from all the boring guys she has met in the past.

This “Mind Hack” Makes Hot Girls Want You

Over 90% of communication is non-verbal. People get much more information from your body language and your tone than from your words. Body language is a powerful tool that can have a significant impact on how we’re perceived by others, especially in the realm of attraction. It’s no secret that women can be drawn to men who exhibit confidence, charisma, and genuine interest through their nonverbal cues.

Here are 5 simple body language tips that you can use right away:

1. Smile. Smile! SMILE! Most guys are so worried about what to say, how to react etc. so they almost always forget to smile when approaching! Or they come up with a fake smile. Practice smiling in front of a mirror. If you are smiling, your brain adapts automatically and puts you in a better mood. And, when you smile and are friendly, it also puts her in a better mood. A genuine smile can be one of the most attractive qualities a man can possess. When you smile, it shows that you’re approachable, friendly, and positive. Make sure your smile reaches your eyes, as this can make it appear more authentic and warm. Remember not to force a smile, as a fake grin can come across as insincere or creepy.

2. Speak louder. Most men are afraid to speak up, because they dont like to be judged by others. Forget about the others as they are too busy thinking about what others (including you) are thinking of them!

3. Speak slower. Confident people don’t talk like they are in a hurry. Also, if you slow down your talking, you’ll be much easier to understand (especially in loud clubs).

4. Eliminate nervous tics. Look at some videos of yourself do you have some tics that you need to get rid of? Silly hand gestures, stupid grimaces or eye twitches? Write down what you notice and try to eliminate them.

5. Dont hold your drink in front of your chest. Most guys do this and you dont want to be like most guys, dont you? Leave your drink at the bar or keep it low. But dont become Jerry Seinfeld walking around, looking around guy with in first place. Approach people, socialize!

6. Maintain confident posture

A confident posture is an essential foundation for exuding attractiveness. Stand tall with your shoulders back and your chest out. This position not only makes you appear more dominant and self-assured but also helps you feel more confident internally. Avoid slouching or crossing your arms, as these can signal insecurity or disinterest.’

7. Make eye contact

Eye contact is a potent nonverbal cue that can convey interest, trust, and confidence. When engaging with a woman, maintain steady eye contact. This demonstrates that you’re actively listening and genuinely interested in what she’s saying. However, be careful not to stare, as this can make the other person uncomfortable. Maintain a balance by occasionally looking away or breaking eye contact for a few seconds.

 8. Use open gestures

Open gestures, such as showing your palms or spreading your arms, can signal openness, trustworthiness, and confidence. These gestures can help you appear more inviting and put the other person at ease. When conversing with a woman, avoid closed-off body language like crossed arms or hiding your hands, as this can communicate that you’re not fully engaged or trustworthy.

9. Mirror her movements

Mirroring is a subtle technique that can help you establish rapport and create a sense of connection. By subtly mimicking a woman’s body language, gestures, or tone of voice, you can create an unconscious bond and make her feel more comfortable around you. Be cautious not to overdo it or make it obvious, as this can come off as creepy or insincere.

10. Respect personal space

While it’s essential to be close enough to engage in conversation, it’s also crucial to respect a woman’s personal space. Pay attention to her body language and adjust your proximity accordingly. If she seems uncomfortable or takes a step back, give her some room. Invading someone’s personal space can make them feel uneasy and damage your chances of building a connection.

11. Be mindful of your touch

Appropriate and well-timed touch can help create a deeper connection and build trust. Start with light, casual touches on her arm, hand, or shoulder when the conversation flows naturally or when emphasizing a point. Make sure to observe her reaction and be respectful of her boundaries. If she reciprocates or appears comfortable, you can gradually progress to more intimate touches.

Conclusion

Mastering the art of body language can significantly improve your ability to attract women and form meaningful connections. By incorporating these seven tips into your interactions, you’ll be well on your way to becoming a more captivating and irresistible presence. Remember that the key to success is being genuine, respectful, and attentive to the other person’s needs and boundaries.

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