The Pick-Up Diary

1. Warm up: Approach at least 5 random people on the street before going to a club.

2. Get to the club half an hour before everyone is going. This way you reduce the chances girls have already been approached by some guys and have their bitch shield on. Also, they are still willing to be approached by a confident, funny guy. A guy like you!

3. Coming into a club smile and open a set immediately. It doesnt matter what you say, what counts is that you look like a social guy. As you open, make a habit to touch the person on the shoulder lightly. Forget about people judging you. I think Neil Strauss, author of The Game, puts said it best: People don’t really care about what you’re doing in a club, they are too busy worrying what other people are thinking about THEM.

For example ask ‘where is the VIP room? How many rooms are here?’ etc. Pretend to walk away and then ask ‘Hey, are you best friends? Yeah? Because there is a cool test for best friends I’ve read in the Cosmopolitan.’ Now they will wanna know why a guy reads Cosmopolitan (you were at the dentist and it was the only magazine in the waiting room).
Do the best friends test and continue with other routines.

Can’t find the right set to open? Ask the barman or the bouncer something (for example: ‘Why is the club is so empty?’ Try to talk at least for a minute. It’s important that girls/ guys see you talking to people.

4. Place yourself at the bar facing the dance floor. Sit down if you can and put your elbow on the counter. Don’t order drinks and hold the bottle in front of your chest (it’s what everybody does and you’re not everybody).

5. As you are there early, girls will come up to the bar and order drinks. If they are close to you, touch her lightly on the shoulder saying ‘Hey, what perfume is that?’ As she goes away, say: ‘the reason why I’m asking is because a want to make a present to a female friend, but I’m absolutely clueless. And I think if I ask in a store they will simply recommend me the most expensive one…’

Sometimes she will say ‘Oh, I don’t even know…’ Don’t let you fool you, say: ‘Come on, you probably have like 17 small bottles in front of your mirror.’ She probably will say: ‘No!! I’m not that type of girl!’ You: Ok, 16 then’. Tease her a bit, flirt with her. Don’t forget to engage her friend.

When they finally want to move along, join them or say ‘Hey, you seem like really cool guys, can I join you until my friends show up? They must be here any minute…’ If they say no, keep your smile and don’t worry: They are not your last set. (And you probably will see them later in the club anyway and it will be easy to continue your conversation).

Stay at your place and open sets immediately that are to your left or right saying ‘Hey, did you see these (girls)? She said she likes your ass!’ (it doesn’t matter if it’s a guy or a girl). Transition with your routines. New game, new luck!

P.S. Two important things to keep in mind:

1) Never let them affect your state in a negative way (at least never show it!), because it will fuck up your next set. Learn to not give a fuck about stuff like that and especially shit tests.

2) Always kino escalate (touching)! Otherwise it will be really awkward to touch for the first time.

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Over 90% of communication is non-verbal. People get much more information from your body language and your tone than from your words. Body language is a powerful tool that can have a significant impact on how we’re perceived by others, especially in the realm of attraction. It’s no secret that women can be drawn to men who exhibit confidence, charisma, and genuine interest through their nonverbal cues.

Here are 5 simple body language tips that you can use right away:

1. Smile. Smile! SMILE! Most guys are so worried about what to say, how to react etc. so they almost always forget to smile when approaching! Or they come up with a fake smile. Practice smiling in front of a mirror. If you are smiling, your brain adapts automatically and puts you in a better mood. And, when you smile and are friendly, it also puts her in a better mood. A genuine smile can be one of the most attractive qualities a man can possess. When you smile, it shows that you’re approachable, friendly, and positive. Make sure your smile reaches your eyes, as this can make it appear more authentic and warm. Remember not to force a smile, as a fake grin can come across as insincere or creepy.

2. Speak louder. Most men are afraid to speak up, because they dont like to be judged by others. Forget about the others as they are too busy thinking about what others (including you) are thinking of them!

3. Speak slower. Confident people don’t talk like they are in a hurry. Also, if you slow down your talking, you’ll be much easier to understand (especially in loud clubs).

4. Eliminate nervous tics. Look at some videos of yourself do you have some tics that you need to get rid of? Silly hand gestures, stupid grimaces or eye twitches? Write down what you notice and try to eliminate them.

5. Dont hold your drink in front of your chest. Most guys do this and you dont want to be like most guys, dont you? Leave your drink at the bar or keep it low. But dont become Jerry Seinfeld walking around, looking around guy with in first place. Approach people, socialize!

6. Maintain confident posture

A confident posture is an essential foundation for exuding attractiveness. Stand tall with your shoulders back and your chest out. This position not only makes you appear more dominant and self-assured but also helps you feel more confident internally. Avoid slouching or crossing your arms, as these can signal insecurity or disinterest.’

7. Make eye contact

Eye contact is a potent nonverbal cue that can convey interest, trust, and confidence. When engaging with a woman, maintain steady eye contact. This demonstrates that you’re actively listening and genuinely interested in what she’s saying. However, be careful not to stare, as this can make the other person uncomfortable. Maintain a balance by occasionally looking away or breaking eye contact for a few seconds.

 8. Use open gestures

Open gestures, such as showing your palms or spreading your arms, can signal openness, trustworthiness, and confidence. These gestures can help you appear more inviting and put the other person at ease. When conversing with a woman, avoid closed-off body language like crossed arms or hiding your hands, as this can communicate that you’re not fully engaged or trustworthy.

9. Mirror her movements

Mirroring is a subtle technique that can help you establish rapport and create a sense of connection. By subtly mimicking a woman’s body language, gestures, or tone of voice, you can create an unconscious bond and make her feel more comfortable around you. Be cautious not to overdo it or make it obvious, as this can come off as creepy or insincere.

10. Respect personal space

While it’s essential to be close enough to engage in conversation, it’s also crucial to respect a woman’s personal space. Pay attention to her body language and adjust your proximity accordingly. If she seems uncomfortable or takes a step back, give her some room. Invading someone’s personal space can make them feel uneasy and damage your chances of building a connection.

11. Be mindful of your touch

Appropriate and well-timed touch can help create a deeper connection and build trust. Start with light, casual touches on her arm, hand, or shoulder when the conversation flows naturally or when emphasizing a point. Make sure to observe her reaction and be respectful of her boundaries. If she reciprocates or appears comfortable, you can gradually progress to more intimate touches.

Conclusion

Mastering the art of body language can significantly improve your ability to attract women and form meaningful connections. By incorporating these seven tips into your interactions, you’ll be well on your way to becoming a more captivating and irresistible presence. Remember that the key to success is being genuine, respectful, and attentive to the other person’s needs and boundaries.

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For his upcoming book (Everyone Loves You When You’re Dead) Neil Strauss aka Style, author of “The Game”, looked over two decades spent touring with rockers and rappers and realized there were a few common lessons and themes that we can all apply to our lives.

One of the things he noticed was that musicians who believed that they were destined to be famous, that being a celebrity was “God’s plan” for them, were more likely to get famous and stay there.

On the other hand, musicians who got famous, and then felt like they got lucky or didn’t deserve to be there any more than other talented (but lesser known) musicians tended to fall out of the limelight pretty quickly.

Strauss even found similar patterns in other fields – from sports to survival. For example liver transplant patients were three times more likely to live if they sought God’s help and intervention. And disaster victims in survival situations who prayed were more likely to live than those who didn’t.

The key point here however isn’t religion. It’s BELIEF and the power of POSITIVE THINKING. According to Strauss success comes from acting out of confidence, conviction, commitment, and deservedness, no matter what critics, haters, and competitors are saying and thinking–with no fear of failure (and with no problem bouncing back undiscouraged if one doesn’t succeed at first).

Conversely, walking down the path to your goals with fear, doubt, and uncertainty as your traveling companions is a sure way to slow down – if not completely bring to a halt – your journey. Even when successful, having a feeling of undeservedness when you reach your goal will ultimately lead to self-sabotage.

Strauss’ advice: whether you’re looking at the woman (or women or lack thereof) in your life or your career goals for the new year, ask yourself: WHAT DO I DESERVE?

Neil Strauss’ article in the Wall Street Journal.

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