Itâ€™s not easy to approach a woman who is working – a waitress for example – because she has seen and heard it all: all the horny guys and their stupid pick-up lines. So she puts on a shield to protect herself. But itâ€™s important to realize that behind that shield is always a human being. Your goal is to break that shield.
The best way to do this is to get rid of the roles that we assume when we become â€œwaiter/customerâ€. She must feel that you are a person with feelings, not just a customer
Teasing is a great way to reach a woman and break down her protective shield. For example when she comes to your table and says â€œDo you guys want to drink something?â€, say â€œWow, youâ€™re quite fast. I donâ€™t even know you yet and youâ€™re trying to get me drunk.â€ Try to find out her name if she doesnâ€™t mention it.
You can also try to tease her that the service is not that great. If she brings you a drink say playfully â€œThis drink doesnâ€™t have enough iceâ€¦ the service here is really bad.â€ Smile, so she understands youâ€™re just fooling around.
In the further interaction, drop a small joke here and there if you can. Smile and pretend to have a good time. When youâ€™re done eating/ drinking, say the following (with a confident voice): â€œListen, (her name). You and I both know that you get hit on all the time. And I know it gets annoying. But you do seem like a great girl,Â and Iâ€™d like to see you under some other circumstances where I could hit on you. What do you think?â€
Remember: there are no guarantees in pick-up, only trial and error.