The Pick-Up Diary

Most guys think you can only meet women in bars and clubs. That can’t be further from the truth. Just think back how many gorgeous women you’ve seen shopping. The great thing is that meeting women in the daytime is a great alternative. Here are 4 reasons why you should start meeting women in coffee shops, malls, colleges, and shopping streets.

1. You don’t enjoy going to bars or clubs.

A lot of guys don’t like going to bars and clubs. Going out at night can be expensive with cover and buying drinks (especially if you buy lots of drinks and you have that dreaded hangover the next day). Let’s not forget that you smell like smoke and sweat the next morning. The good thing is that women aren’t only found in bars and clubs. If you don’t like meeting women at night (or your schedule doesn’t permit you), you will love daytime dating. You can meet tons of women in the daytime. Just think of all the women you can meet in busy malls and coffee shops.

2. Most women are by themselves.

Don’t you just hate it when you get cockblocked? Well guess what. You won’t have that problem in the daytime. At night women are found in big groups. Oftentimes with men around them too that might intimidate you. However, most women are found alone during the day. She might be running some errands or she is on her way to get an appointment. This makes it much easier to get to know the woman when she is by herself and you won’t have to worry about her friends interrupting you.

3. You meet more quality girls.

Let’s face it. Do you really want that crazy party girl as your girlfriend? You will meet more quality girls in the daytime than you do at night. They are too busy doing useful things than getting drunk at night. You won’t find quality girls partying on a Wednesday night at 1.30am. A beautiful woman reading a book on Roman history is a better catch, isn’t she? You will find those quality women shopping in malls, libraries, and coffee shops just to name a few places. In fact, a lot of these quality girls will refuse to meet guys at bars or clubs. So if you don’t meet those girls in the daytime, you’re missing out on a lot of quality women.

4. Wider range of times and places to meet women.

The night time only gives you limited number of options on types of places you can meet women: bar, lounge, and nightclub. During the day you can go to many more places: coffee shops, libraries, college campuses, shopping streets, malls, and grocery stores. There more places where on one-off times you can meet women like theme parks, festivals, and that one time you run into a woman somewhere and you don’t what to do. Another great thing of daytime dating is that you don’t have to wait till nighttime comes around. You can start meeting women as soon as you wake up getting your coffee at the coffee shop.

If you want to find out more on how to meet, attract, and seduce women in daytime environment, you should check out “Daytime Dating” by day-game expert Jeremy Soul of Love Systems. He is recognized as the #1 day game expert and he has codified his system for getting girls in coffee shops, malls, streets, and more. His brand-new book on day-game called “Daytime Dating” is going to be released tomorrow. By now you can read 20 pages for FREE!

What is subtext?

For acting, subtext is the underlying meaning behind spoken words as interpreted by an actor. What does that mean? Basically you’re adding additional meaning to your spoken words by the way you say them. Let’s say you have the following (cheesy) script for a scene to act in:

John and Mary are alone in the bedroom. Mary is upset and John is comforting her.

“John: Mary, everything is going to be ok, I just want you to know that I love you.”

Now you’re  going to play John in this scene there is a lot of information you’re going to need in order to apply the proper subtext to your dialogue. Things like:

What is the relationship between John and Mary?
If they are siblings then the line would be spoken much differently than if they were lovers.

– What happened just before?
– What if this scene took place right after they had sex?
– How would you reflect that in the above line of dialogue?

This is all information that can be implied with the proper subtext.

So, what does this have to do with game? Everything!

Because – and you probably have heard this a lot – it doesn’t matter WHAT you say, it’s HOW you say it. Women are MASTERS at subtext, they know that there is loads of information hidden in the way something is said. That’s why women can get so bitchy over seemingly trivial things that guys say; they know what were thinking!

So how do you use subtext effectively? Let’s have an example:

Let’s say you’re in a venue gaming and you see a great set. Now in any given set at the venue, realistically, the subtext of the dialogue you exchange with them is going to be “I’m trying to win you over and make you like me.” A lot of guys subconsciously use this subtext when they open and are often blown out. Why? Because the women read into your subtext and knew exactly what you were doing, this is why you will hear “Is that a line?” often, even if she hadn’t heard it before.

A better way to approach is to use the subtext of your opener. This is how most successful PUAs operate. For instance, Cajun’s opener involves him asking girls if he looks like a drug dealer, so the subtext is simply that it’s bothering his that he look like a drug dealer and he needs their opinion. When he says the opener he puts himself in the mind frame that it JUST happened to him so that his subtext is believable.

Cajun holds the view that the best way to approach is to look at the venue as a stage and look at each set as a scene you can enter into. Instead of using the above mind frames when opening try to use the subtext of a completely made up scenario that makes you exude attractiveness. Enter into the set under the subtext of “I just slept with all of these girls” and I will communicate that to them by the way I speak, not by the words I’m saying. All of your dialogue will remain the same as it normally was.

So what happens? They catch on very quickly and you will create attraction almost instantaneously. Women LOVE guys that they can’t quite figure out, so if you go in acting like you just slept with them then you are basically a social enigma, which is like crack to them.

And this is why you can talk to them about robots for 3 mins and then all of a sudden make out! Subtext is the reason. You don’t always have to use the subtext of “I just slept with these girls”. You can use whatever you want, but this one works very well.

Subtext is one of those things that’s pretty hard to grasp through reading. That’s why Cajun and other Love Systems instructors created the DVD set “Beyond Words” so you can visually see it. In the DVD you can see Cajun teach in more depth other non-verbal techniques to attract women using your body language.

P.S. If you have any doubts about Cajun, check out Cajun picking up some hot girls. It’s a classic by now.

The guys from Love Systems finally did it: The Body Language and Physical Escalation DVD is finished. Here is an interview with Cajun, a great PUA and one of the guys behind the DVD:

What is the Beyond Words DVD Home Study Course about?

Cajun: A lot of guys ask me on the forums and in emails how they can improve their body language so they can better approach and attract women. It’s hard to show it to them because it is something you have to see. A lot of body language is very subtle and that is hard to convey in text. You can read about body language in books but it’s not the same as when you can visually see it.

A couple months ago I flew to London to work with Vercetti, who is a trained Shakespearean actor and fellow Love Systems coach, to make this DVD home study course. We wanted to share our newest and proven methods to attract women using non-verbal communication.

Instead of writing a book, we decided to make a DVD because you can visually learn how to improve your body language. With help of Mr M, Keychain and 5.0 we also made an extra segment on physical escalation. Again, touching and physical escalation (“kino”) can be better taught by using a visual medium.

Why is body language so important?

Cajun: A lot of guys think what you say is the most important thing when it comes to attracting women. That couldn’t be further from the truth. It doesn’t matter what you say, it is how you say it. With the “how” I mean your tone of voice, facial expressions, body language, and what we call “subcommunications” and “subtext”.

In the DVD set we cover all these aspects and explain in depth why your non-verbal communication is much more important than your verbal. Scientific studies have shown that most communication between people is non-verbal. In this clip I tell why non-verbal communication is important (a sneak preview of the DVD).

Can you give one tip that someone can use right now to improve their body language?

Cajun: The simplest thing you can do today is to work on your posture. In the DVD we cover the Alexander technique on how that can improve your posture dramatically. Trained actors use this all the time.

Girls will reject you before you even approach if you have bad posture, because it subcommunicates a lot of bad things about you. This goes especially for guys who have sit behind a computer a lot.

A simple exercise you can do is to do row exercises at the gym and squats. Also, whenever you sit behind your desk, be conscious of your posture. Don’t slouch, sit tall and keep your back erect. If you buy a swiss ball and use that as your chair behind your desk, you will be forced to sit up straight and it will fix your posture that way too.

Anything else you want to share?

Cajun: I’m really excited about the Beyond Words DVD set. Finally I’ve been able to reveal all my body language and subtext secrets that I normally only teach on my workshops and 1on1 sessions. This DVD is one of a kind and you can finally learn how to properly physically escalate (“kino”) and how to use your body language so it becomes easier to meet and attract women.

For more information on Cajun and his Beyond Words DVD Home Study Course, click here.

Don’t forget to check out the other preview clips:

Vercetti on First Impressions
Vercetti on Beer Shield
5.0 on Breaking Contact

The Lineup of Pickup Artists that will teach you how to get beautiful women in your life at the Love Systems Super Conference in Las Vegas (October 9-11.2009) is finally revealed. Here’s the complete schedule (the names of the instructors in parentheses):

The Top 10 Myths of Pickup (Savoy) – There are a lot of myths and bad pieces of advice out in the dating world. The author of Magic Bullets will dispel all myths and tell you the TRUTH on what works and what doesn’t work.

High-End Club Game (5.0) – Attracting a “10” at a VIP club is different from dating the girl next door. 5.0, who has trained rock stars to pick up women, reveals the secrets for these loud and target-rich places to pick up the most sought after women in the club.

Banishing Approach Anxiety Forever (Fader) – How different would your life be if you could confidently approach any woman, anywhere? Your success with women will skyrocket once you have no approach anxiety.

Advanced Social Dynamics (Mr. M) – From the co-creator of the widely-hailed Social Circle Mastery (also offered at the Super Conference). Topics include: qualification and the social hierarchy, getting attraction in group situations, generating massive social proof, and more.

Use Frames, Framing, and Reframing Tonight (Sheriff) – One of the top 5 most powerful techniques to attract beautiful women – and the most misunderstood. Learn the secret frame control and framing techniques from one of the senior dating coaches!

Boundaries and Disqualification (Braddock) – We’re going to be going out to VIP clubs in Vegas, so we want you armed to the teeth with attraction techniques that will get through to “10s.” Braddock will teach you getting women chasing you with advanced push/pull and disqualification.

Qualification Demystified (Future) – very few men understand what qualification really is and how to implement it in the field. It is essential for building comfort and rapport so make sure you know to make yourself a source of validation to women.

Physical Escalation (“kino”) (Soul) – Touching is one the most common problems guys have when learning meeting and picking up women. Learn from the voted #1 Super Conference instructor of last year.

Body Language (Cajun) – Body Language is one of those things everyone agrees is important, but no one gets specific about it. We do. The little things add up and matter – a lot.

Turning Phone Numbers into Dates (Tenmagnet) – Do you get a lot of flaky numbers and you can’t turn these numbers into dates? Learn from Tenmagnet, featured in The Game, on turning dead phone numbers into dates.

Cajun’s Question Game Routine (Cajun) – The winner of Keys to the VIP shares this top-secret routine. If you can get to Comfort, you can close with this. A student of last year’s Super Conference learned Cajun’s routine and slept with a girl he met on the plane on his way home by using the routine. You can get the same success!

Rapid Sexual Escalation (Keychain) – You hear the stories of pulling hot girls into the bathroom, or immediate makeouts, or taking her home soon after meeting her. Or you’ve seen Love Systems instructors do it. Now for the first time, we show you how.

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