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May 9, 2016 - Jeffy PUA, Online Dating    No Comments

Top 3 Online Dating Mistakes Most Guys are still Making

Online dating is extremely convenient – you can browse and arrange dates with an endless number of women without even going out. However, that doesn’t mean that it’s easy. In fact, most men make the same mistakes when it comes to online dates. So, without further ado, here are the

Top 3 Online Dating Mistakes Most Guys are still Making:

1) Not having a profile picture/Having a bad picture.

This one is easy: Not having an profile picture makes you basically invisible. No one will really bother to take to time to answer or even contact you, if you don’t even take the trouble to upload a picture of you.

But of course, it’s not enough having some picture. The picture needs to be good, it hast o stand out from the crowd. Most guys on online dating sites have bad pictures, that is: you can’t really see your face, it’s blurred, it’s a selfie (ultimate no-go) or even worse a bare-chested selfie in front of a mirror with stains of toothpaste on it.

In short: You definitely need the time to create and upload a good picture. Ask a friend with a professional camera to make some pictures of you and you will definitely stand out from the crown.

Good-looking pictures are an absolute minimum when it comes to online dating. And yes, pictures, not picture – you need more than one. One that shows your face (no special face expression, not looking into the camera), one whole-body-shot (smiling/in-motion) and one with friends/other people, preferable also women.

The last one is important because it shows women that you actually are a social being and/or preselection. You can write novels about how cool you are, but firstly most visitors won’t even read it and secondly, only seeing is believing.

You can upload more pictures, preferably travel or activity pics, but more than 5 is actually a try-hard, showing neediness.

2) Writing „empty“ or boring messages.

„Empty“ means messages that are useless like „Hi“, „Hey“, „What’s up“, „How is it going“, „I like your …“

They are useless because most girls on online dating sites get tons oft hem daily and there is basically no reason to answer (unless they recognize you’re a famous actor from your profile pic). By sending stuff like this you assume she will do the work and will engage a converstation – really?

But there are also boring because clichéd messages like „you have beautiful eyes“, etc. These are either too familiar or obviously dishonest or/and needy.

Also, avoid boring interview questions like „what do you do?“, „where do you live“, etc.

In fact, what you send isn’t as important as what you don’t send. So, at all cost, avoid teh type of messages mentioned above as well as sexual messages of any kind.

The idea is to create a connection to her and every message is a step to this goal. So try to be creative and funny when messaging – this is not „poking“ on facebook. If you’re having trouble with creating interesting messages, this Online Dating Mastery Program will help.

3) Putting everything on one card.

This means concetrating on one girl instead of sending tons of messages to different girls and increasing your chances of success tremendously.

By all means concrentrate on one girl that you like (from her pictures, because obviously you don’t know her in real life), but do also send messages to other girls so you won’t be devastated when she suddenly decides to end your the conversation seemlingly for no reason.

This also means that you shoulde have profiles on different online dating sites not only because you can contact much more girls, but also because they are slightly different and different types of girls use differentv sites.

There are great dating site reviews on fuck.com if you don’t know which sites to use. fuck.com is magazine about dating and relationships as well as dating site reviews.

How to Pick Up Women – 7 Things You Need to Do to Get the Girl

1. Go out and approach. You can read all the pickup material in the world and watch endless pickup videos on YouTube, but as long as you don’t go out and practice the stuff you read and see it doesn’t matter. In fact, it might even kill your game as you become dependent on those videos because they make you feel good (temporarily).

2. Don’t take things girls say personally. If you get rejected – and this happens to EVERYONE, even pickup gurus – don’t start thinking she doesn’t like you as a person. She can’t because she doesn’t know you long enough. It’s always about your approach: Did you smile? Were you loud enough? Did you make superfluos gestures?

3. Focus on the process, not on the outcome. If you go out with the goal to make-up or sleep with a girl you are doomed to fail. You simply can’t predict those things and if things don’t go your way it will affect your (emotional) state. And girls always look for your emotional state first. Try to have fun in the process – it will simplify anything else.

4. Lead. Don’t be passive and listen to her stories for hours. Talk about things you want to talk about. Don’t wait for something to happen, make it happen! Say you want to do XYZ and do it. Suggest things, take responsibility. Change venues, inspire her to do something with you.

5. Work her emotions. Women are all about emotions, different kind of emotions. That why they like drama and crying at the movies so much. Never bore her, simply give her what she wants: the full range of emotions. Say you love her, then say you hate her… This is not lying, this is called flirting. Extreme emotions are WAY better than no emotions at all. Even a negative emotion is better than no emotion because you can change it to positive. Tell stories that trigger her emotions. Be unpredictable, surprise her.

6. Always kino escalate. Touch her while approaching (there are studies showing this alone improves the response rate dramatically), hug her, use high fives, punch her in the shoulder (playfully), ask for a small massage (you will be surprised how many girls will do you the favor!) and massage her, do hand reading etc. Kino escalation is a must to avoid landing in the friend zone. Women love physical contact much more than men, however don’t overdo it in the beginning, keep it subtle.

7. Calibrate. Pickup is about adapting to the girl. Girls are different and sometimes will react differently to your stuff – depending on her emotional state etc. Don’t let this affect your game, just adapt. Find out what she’s about, give her some extremes and look how she reacts. Don’t worry, it’s still better than no extremes at all as it triggers her emotions and that exaclty what girls want. This way you will stand out from all the boring guys she has met in the past.

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